Thursday, September 8, 2011

My New Style is No Style

The truth: While I often post glamorous shopping ideas and mention the fashionable things I'm lusting after, I rarely wear them. I do when Kadin and I go out alone (which happens four times a year, when his mother comes to visit); or when I have somewhere special to go or am seeing someone I haven't seen in a long time. And on each of those occasions, I feel fantastic and beautiful at first, but after an hour or two, I cannot wait to be barefoot and change into something that's loose or has an expandable waist.

Is it because I'm a mom now? Or that my body changed and I have no idea what to do with it? Is it that I'm not going to an office, where I'm expected display the latest fancy pants? Is it because I grew up in California and have always been a flip-flop wearer disguised as a liker of high heels?

As Kadin always says, "I don't have the answer." But I often think about how my former magazine bosses would be horrified at my everyday, beaten-up sneakers, lipstick-only face, messy bun and stretchy pants.

My new laissez-faire style might also have something to do with the fact that I'm married now. One of Kadin's best friends came with his wife and two-year-old daughter to visit us not long ago. They brought one towel for the three of them and wore sweat pants and much the same thing the whole time. Kadin and I were entirely relieved. When we travel now, we pack one suitcase (which usually contains jeans and lots of black) for all three of us. We also bring only one towel and don't shower every day. And we often wear some of the same clothing pieces two or more days in a row.

When the friend was here, I also remember him saying, "Isn't it nice to finally be with someone who doesn't care what you're wearing or how you look?" We all gave a collective sigh and agreed that it was. And then we laughed about how our respective parents think we're insane because our clothes are always wrinkled and too casual, or our hair is on the messy side.

I remember, too, when a single friend came to visit. He took one look at us and commented, "You guys have let yourselves go." I suddenly began scouring through photographs of Kadin and I when we were first dating. I saw bonier faces, smaller waistlines, more fashionable clothing and slick hair. I thought, have we become those cliched married people who blow up after walking down the aisle? Have we turned into frat boys who've been ordering too much pizza and drinking too many pints?

Maybe. Just maybe. But I believe in being healthy--enjoying life without being a glutton--and I'm fifty times happier now than when I thought too much about how I looked and how other people looked at me.

Image via Observando


Alice B. said...

Ohmygosh, I cannot believe that your single friend said that! I think you guys look great.

Susanna said...

It's such a relief to grow up and realize there is so much more to life than the way you look. I think it's so freeing as a woman to be able to let go of obsessing about how you look all the time.

Anonymous said...

You guys totally rock. That's all.

Laura Mauk said...

Anon and Alice, thank you, you guys are too kind.

@Susanna, I couldn't agree more.

Cathy said...

I don't shower every day either. Hey, Europeans do the same thing. They also wear jeans and a lot of black. Maybe we're just Euros!

Nancy said...

I love all things fashionable but my attire sure does not reflect that. I think I have 3 outfits on rotation and 1 special going out outfit for those rare occasion. I think also because we become more confident with ourselves as we age. On the outside, it may say, dude i need to comb my hair but on the inside, it's damn, I am hot stuff. ;)


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